For you I drew card 27, a unicorn in plate armor, shielded from the world, in the React aspect: Deflect.
If you are headed into battle, thick armor is a very good thing to defend us, and to allow us to defend things and people that matter to us. But if you are not in battle, armor is really heavy and hot and uncomfortable, and it can slow you down and make you less agile even in battle.
What armor are you wearing? Does it protect your heart or isolate it? Have your circumstances or skills changed since you put it on, so that maybe you don't need all of it all the time? Do you have habits that deflect conversations away from the kinds of intimacy and companionship you crave?
I can't say it's foolish to have your armor. Armor can be a very sensible thing to wear, in dangerous circumstances. And even if it's a good idea to take it off, it might be a very good thing to keep it handy in case of future need. But perhaps whatever literal or metaphorical armor you've surrounded yourself with is keeping you from your goals right now. Gather your courage and let people see a bit of the real you. That can be really hard, but it's the only way to see who might be compatible for a closer relationship, whether you're looking for a buddy or a romantic partner.
I'm not suggesting throwing all caution to the winds. You can choose which bits to share first. I remember deliberately talking about growing purple beans and purple tomatoes, because they were quite non-threatening, and if someone couldn't handle my weird preferences in vegetables there was no point in talking about science fiction, or tarot, or, well, hardly anything else. I remember another friend wearing argyle sox, because in the small farming community where she lived that labeled her as "weird but harmless" (similar to the result my youngest sister got from drawing all the time in school.) But you have to start somewhere, and be willing to share more of yourself when things go well.
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War Unicorn
Date: 2024-06-22 04:31 am (UTC)If you are headed into battle, thick armor is a very good thing to defend us, and to allow us to defend things and people that matter to us. But if you are not in battle, armor is really heavy and hot and uncomfortable, and it can slow you down and make you less agile even in battle.
What armor are you wearing? Does it protect your heart or isolate it? Have your circumstances or skills changed since you put it on, so that maybe you don't need all of it all the time? Do you have habits that deflect conversations away from the kinds of intimacy and companionship you crave?
I can't say it's foolish to have your armor. Armor can be a very sensible thing to wear, in dangerous circumstances. And even if it's a good idea to take it off, it might be a very good thing to keep it handy in case of future need. But perhaps whatever literal or metaphorical armor you've surrounded yourself with is keeping you from your goals right now. Gather your courage and let people see a bit of the real you. That can be really hard, but it's the only way to see who might be compatible for a closer relationship, whether you're looking for a buddy or a romantic partner.
I'm not suggesting throwing all caution to the winds. You can choose which bits to share first. I remember deliberately talking about growing purple beans and purple tomatoes, because they were quite non-threatening, and if someone couldn't handle my weird preferences in vegetables there was no point in talking about science fiction, or tarot, or, well, hardly anything else. I remember another friend wearing argyle sox, because in the small farming community where she lived that labeled her as "weird but harmless" (similar to the result my youngest sister got from drawing all the time in school.) But you have to start somewhere, and be willing to share more of yourself when things go well.
Good luck!
And good luck!